Seeds of Devotion
By Julia Attaway

Pray to Be a Good Mother

We went to dinner over the holidays at the house of some friends we hadn’t seen in a very long time. I came to the jarring re-realization that my children are no longer little and sweet. They are big and teen-y and have an adolescent edge to their humor.

For years I yearned to offer God the gift of a beautiful family, but what I have at the moment is kids with sarcasm and acne. That’s OK. Life got simpler (and I became a better mother) when I stopped worrying about how my kids would turn out and focused more on what I was putting in. It’s the input that’s within my control, after all. It’s up to me to be patient, thoughtful, faithful and responsible, and to set boundaries and a good example. It’s up to them to decide what to do with that.

I don’t like all of my kids’ decisions any more than God likes all of mine. But it’s possible to offer feedback and correction without falling in the trap of thinking that their choices somehow reflect how good a mother I am. I’m a good mother based on what I do, not what they do. And I pray God will help me be a good one.

Julia Attaway is a freelance writer, homeschooler and mother of five. She is the editor of Daily Guideposts: Your First Year of Motherhood, a book of devotions for first-time moms. She lives in New York.

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That is just what i needed to hear. ThaNks from ths bottom of my heart. May our God be with all mom's that are going through somthing with there kids. Praying for all mom's.

I've been reading an you have given me what I need as a mom thanks

This message really inspired me. I was speaking to my husband a few days ago and he asked my how does it feel to be a mom. My response was that I am afraid of the outcome of my children. I know I'm a good mother but I spend so much time trying to do everything right so that my kids will be nearly perfect. I need to ease up and continue to pray that for the strength and knowledge to be a mom as well as implementation without the drilling. I'm a good mom and he's a great dad. We should be fine