The Up Beat
By Amy Wong

The Greatest Gifts: Compassion, Kindness and Love

It has been hard to find answers after the mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary. Hard to find hope after the deaths of innocent children and the school staff who gave their lives to protect those in their charge. Prayer has helped. Poetry. Music.

Yet I found the most comfort in an unlikely place: a photograph from an ancient burial site, and the moving story behind it. Australian archaeologists Lorna Tilley and Marc Oxenham excavated the 4,000-year-old Man Bac site, in what is now northern Vietnam, and uncovered one grave that stood out from the rest.

Unlike the other skeletons at Man Bac, which lay straight, the young man buried in this grave was curled in the fetal position, his head pillowed on a rock. Closer examination and analysis of his bones showed that he was born with a disabling fusion of the spine. His condition deteriorated so that he became paralyzed from the waist down in childhood and had minimal use of his arms. Still, the archaeologists determined, he lived for another 10 years with “severe, most probably total, incapacitation.”

He would have been completely dependent on others for survival. The people in his community came through. Their own existence could not have been easy—they lived by hunting and fishing and did not have metal tools—but they took care of this disabled young man, made sure he was fed and protected. And they laid him to rest with the same care.

I was struck by Tilley’s interpretation of this young man’s survival. She believes it shows not only a culture of tolerance but also an individual who, despite being radically different from the people around him, had “a sense of his own worth and a strong will to live.”

This is not the first archaeological find—and it won’t be the last—to demonstrate that prehistoric people, civilizations far less developed than our own, took care of and made accommodations for the chronically ill and disabled so that they could live among them.

Maybe now more than ever, we need these reminders that the greatest gifts we are given—and can give—are compassion, kindness and love.

Amy Wong is the executive editor of Guideposts and was a founding editor of Positive Thinking. She lives in New York City with her adopted dog, Winky, a natural-born positive thinker who believes that everyone has a treat for her and every day is the best day of her life. Amy hopes to be that optimistic someday (she’s working on it!).

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Thank you Amy Wong for sharing how important it is that
we learn from God about compassion, mercy and love so we can
share these qualities with people. I recently got to visit
with a young couple who have been living in Jaco, Costa Rica
and ministering to children at risk - sharing God's love, mercy and compassion - making a difference. One of the young girls (27 yrs.) in our church is going to return there
and help them.
Thank you again for your ministry and blessing to so many of
us. Enjoyed hearing about your dog. I certainly enjoy 'Lady' my spaniel.
Ron Elmer Farnsworth

Compassion is timeless. There was an incredible amount of compassion and courage demonstrated at Sandy Hook. While monsters like the shooter exist, they are far outnumbered by decent people. Maybe God is telling us to look after ourselves instead of constantly asking Him for help. This world can be a wonderful place if everybody actively does their share of good and uses prayer sparingly.

Wonderful & fascinating piece. Great perspective.