To Feed My Soul

She knew she was sick, but until eight caring strangers confronted her, she didn't have the will to battle her eating disorder.

By Lauryn Lax, Austin, Texas

As appeared in

A quick glance at the clock on my car radio: 4:38 a.m. Perfect timing. I’d be at the YMCA at five on the dot when they opened the doors and would claim my favorite StairMaster, the one that gave the toughest workout.

My second year of grad school started the next week and I was on four hours of sleep from babysitting jobs, but that was no excuse to skip my two-hour morning workout.

Later, to burn off lunch–one microwaved turkey patty and two pieces of steamed zucchini–I’d squeeze in another two-hour workout at a different gym. If I did all my cardio, I’d treat myself to a protein shake, hit a third gym, and finally, have dinner (another turkey patty).

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Healthy food. Plenty of exercise. Nothing wrong with that, right? At least, that’s what I tried to tell myself. Desperately. Earlier that morning I’d stepped on my roommate’s scale: 79 pounds. A number I hadn’t seen since I was 10. Now I was 23.

Deep down I knew I was killing myself. Yet something just as deep was driving this destructive obsession with my weight. I was powerless. I stopped at a red light, rested my head on the wheel, and prayed, Lord, I’m totally exhausted, but I don’t know how to stop. Please help me change.

The light turned green. I headed for the Y, for the machine that was literally my master. I parked and reached in my trunk for the fitness magazines I read religiously.

“Hi, Lauryn, how are you?” someone said. I turned to see eight strangers surrounding me. Not exactly strangers. Fellow gym-goers.

“Uh, hi, what’s up?” I asked. Were they mad I hogged the StairMaster?

A few of them stepped forward. “Lauryn, we’re worried about you. You’ve been withering away. We’re afraid you’ll collapse on that StairMaster. We really want to help. We’re taking you to Vanderbilt University Medical Center.”

Who did they think they were? “Mind your own business,” I snapped. “I’m fine.” But something told me that this time things were serious....

Fourth grade. That’s when it started. I was living in West Little Rock, Arkansas, with my parents and younger brother and sister. I was an overachiever. Driven, I guess–sports, school plays, choir.

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One day I chatted with new friends during recess, the popular girls. “I am so fat,” the ringleader declared. “I weigh, like, sixty-nine pounds.

“Oh, stop,” another girl said. “You are so skinny!” The ringleader smiled, then turned to me. “Lauryn, what do you weigh?”

I froze. I weighed a very normal 80 pounds. If she weighs 69 pounds and she’s fat, I must be huge. If I want to be popular, I’ve got to lose at least 10 pounds. “Uh, I’m not sure,” I lied.

That was my introduction to the negative voice in my head. I’d look in the mirror, slap my face, grip my thighs. “You’re ugly, fat and stupid!” I’d shout. I had to be perfect.

I skipped lunch at school, ate less at dinner. I didn’t care what it took–I wanted all the boys to like me, and all the girls to want to be me.

I lost 12 pounds practically overnight. My parents dragged me to the pediatrician, who ran tests to explain my malnutrition. Anemia? Mono? The flu? All negative. Eventually, an eating-disorder specialist diagnosed me with anorexia nervosa.

Mom choked back tears. “Can this be fixed?” Dad asked. “I mean, she just needs to eat, right?”

“Yes, but she’ll need treatment–weigh-ins, visits with me, a nutritionist and a counselor.”

I did all that, but deep down I didn’t want to change. I lost more weight. My heart rate dipped dangerously low. “You need to be hospitalized,” the specialist told me. “Do you know you could die from this?”

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I couldn't read this without seeing the face of my late friend Jan. She died in the mid-nineties after decades of fighting anorexia. As I type this comment I am seeing the face of her mother over the years we watched (and tried to help) Jan killing herself. Sometimes it seems all the faith and prayer and love even from casual acquaintances is not enough to help someone win the battle. I wonder now after reading your story, could we have helped Jan by reminding her she could choose, with God-granted strength, to not listen to that voice? I look back and know these were not words we said to her - should I ever met another anorexic I believe I will try saying 'You can chose not to listen to the voice driving you to starve yourself' in addition to prayers and reminders of God's love.

Our daughter has gone through a very similar struggle. She has also recovered. I like how you said that the voice goes away when you choose not to listen to it. How our life turns out is all so often about the choices we make.
May you continue to make the right ones, it took a lot of courage to take charge like you did, keep it up.

I agree with Sanjeev. What a turnaround, and what a great group of caring individuals. Blessings on you and your future of helping others.

Well done Lauryn. It's so pleasing to see how you have turned your life around, and how you are using your experience to inspire others. Inspirational.