Revisiting Old Wounds Renews War Hero's Faith

The inspiring story of how the depression following the former senator's electoral defeat opened a door to healing.

By Max Cleland, Atlanta, Georgia

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I knew things were bad when I broke down weeping in the kitchen that evening. It was Thanksgiving. I was loading the dishwasher at my fiancée’s house. Liz and I had just had friends over for a delicious dinner. Yet I was completely miserable.

A few weeks before, I had unexpectedly lost my reelection bid for the United States Senate. Polls had shown me ahead. But this was 2002, the year before we went to war in Iraq. American politics was like a tinderbox. Some commercials had run impugning my patriotism. That’s about all it took.

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A veteran of the Vietnam War, I had lost both legs and an arm on the battlefield. Now I had lost my job. I didn’t know who I was anymore.

I closed the dishwasher and wiped down the counter, trying to compose myself. Our guests had gone home, but I couldn’t let Liz see me like this. She walked into the kitchen. Maybe it was seeing her and thinking about the future we’d planned together. I felt a wave of deep sadness come over me. Future? What future?

I recognized the feeling. It took me straight back to that day atop Hill 471, east of Khe Sanh. That’s where I had reached out to pick up a loose grenade, not realizing it was live. The grenade had been dropped by another soldier on my radio team, though I didn’t learn that until years later.

I thought I had made peace with the war and with my injuries. But this election loss revealed the truth. I was broken.

“Max, what’s wrong?” Liz asked. I was weeping again. I couldn’t stop.

I wish I could say that I cried for just a few days more then got over my election loss and moved on. But I didn’t.

On the outside, the next couple of years of my life looked okay. I got a part-time job teaching political science at American University in Washington, D.C., and even served for a time on a government commission investigating the events of September 11, 2001.

But I barely managed to do those jobs. The minute I’d walk through the door of my small apartment in Arlington, Virginia, I would break down crying. At night I couldn’t sleep. And if I did finally get to sleep, I had weird dreams. I realized what a luxury it had been to serve in the Senate. I had a staff there. An office. A place to go every day. I had work that made me feel like I mattered. Now, I drifted, alone.

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I saw a doctor who prescribed an antidepressant. It didn’t help. Liz and I finally called off our engagement. I knew I was in no shape to be a good partner for anyone.

The pain grew unendurable. I remembered an old friend named Howard who had also struggled with depression. How had he coped with it?

I called him. “I’m taking the pills they prescribed, but they’re useless,” I told him.

“Who’s your therapist?” Howard asked.

“Therapist? I don’t have one. I need a job to help me get back on top, not a therapist,” I said.

“Max, you need to talk to someone,” Howard said. “You can’t work your way out of depression. You need help. Talk to my therapist here in Miami. Maybe she can recommend someone up there in D.C.”

I hated thinking of myself as a head case, but I was desperate. I called Howard’s therapist and she recommended someone named Val, who worked at Walter Reed Army Medical Center in Washington.

I steeled myself for my first appointment. Walter Reed was where I had been treated for my Vietnam injuries. When I’d checked out of the hospital in 1968, I’d hoped that I would never have to go back. I had been to war, been wounded, gone through rehab and moved on with my life.

Now I wheeled myself along the hallway toward Val’s office. The guys in the hallway were missing legs, arms and eyes, but those wounds were from wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, not from Vietnam. Wars may have different names but they still do the same thing to soldiers.

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My initial sessions with Val weren’t promising. Mostly, I wept. Once, sitting in her office, I heard a familiar sound coming from the room next door. I listened. It was my own voice! A wounded soldier was watching a documentary I had been a part of a few years earlier called Strong at the Broken Places. I could hear myself talking about my war wounds and how I’d come back to make a life in public service.

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I have always been very angry at the malicious accusations that were made by the opposing party's supporters suggesting that Sen. Cleland was not patriotic enough to keep his Democratic seat in the US Senate. As a fellow Army veteran of the Vietnam War, I was also disgusted by the VFW's support of Sen. Cleland's
political opponent, a man who had never served in the military standing with slurs against a wheelchair-bound veteran who had sacrificed 3 limbs serving his country. I cannot understand the voters not being equally astonished by these types of nasty political smears. How can we all not be able to see through these
foul political plays for power by those who are so dishonest, and far less deserving of leadership roles in our country? And yet it continues to go on and on in so many of our local, state and national elections.

I was touched by your story, thank God you came to the realization that only God can fill the void in your life. Praise be to Him who hears and answers prayers.

This article hit me where I needed to see how I could move on from this depression.
I am disabled, on limited social security disability, started out seeing medical help for the increasing hearing loss and associated problems. I am now diagnosed with chronic mild depression (from childhood), generalized anxiety disorder with social phobia (it is hard to be comfortable in noisy areas when sound overwhelms all your senses), fibromyalgia, myofascial pain, degenerated discs in neck and lower back, obesity, trichotillomania, and I feel lost, even when I keep smiling and moving to keep from being in more pain from "not moving".
I'm not sure what I'm going to do, however, I do live with my faith, being kind, treating others with respect and honor as how I want to be treated, and looking for ways to add funds to get back on the + side of bills.
My income was cut in 3/4 going on disability, however, the bills keep increasing, and to add to the fun, now, medicare is also taken out of my disability check.