How to combat the fear and stress for military families at a tough time
Posted in , Oct 3, 2014
Deployment is tough, you don’t need anyone to remind you of that. But you may need some other reminders. To combat the fear and stress that seem to overwhelm us during these times, I’ve come up with a list of five things to remember during deployment.
1. Deployment isn’t permanent.
So often those times apart seem to go on forever. No matter how it feels at the time, it really is a temporary situation. Think about the times ahead and try not to get bogged down in the moment.
2. Keep living life.
No, I promise this doesn’t contradict number one above. I worked hard not to wish my life away. I had a family at home, and I learned to embrace the joy that came.
It’s not possible to bottle up the good times and save them for when your loved one is back home. Instead, anticipate the future but let life happen. Having someone you love deployed isn’t a reason to feel guilty.
3. Throw away the thought of keeping a stiff upper lip.
Deployment is an emotional time. For most of us, stress heightens our emotions, making the highs higher and the lows lower. Release the idea of being a pillar of strength and let the emotions come. Don’t let them overwhelm you, but bottling them up can lead to disaster.
4. Now is the time when you need support.
Deployment isn’t the time to adopt a bunker mentality. Don’t disappear from sight and refuse offers of help. Let those close to you rally around. Even more, ask for the help you need.
So often it’s hard to know how to help a military family. Don’t be selfish, communicate and let others experience the blessings of service. You’ll feel better and so will the one who’s deployed.
5. Plug in to God.
Your faith will be the foundation of your strength and your peace. God promises us a peace that passes all understanding, and He does not disappoint. Pull out your Bible, find a friend or a group to pray with and don’t avoid the help that’s always at hand.
These are the things that kept me strong. Some I figured out on my own. Others came as suggestions from those who had also had loved ones serving. Now it’s your turn, what would you add to the list?